Interview with

 American writer, his wife Elizabeth and Dan
Dan can not stand Elizabeth more nervous, and she decided to escape his
experiment, loyalty in doubt, fear will br> Interview with , married 9 years, stable, mortgage is paid off, her daughter grew, the marriage has lost the passion, the two sides of the defect seems to be increasingly difficult to tolerate. able to make the marriage to regain passion? Following After the experimental period, the couple found that the quality of their marriage has made considerable improvement. Elizabeth. Weil wrote this experience into a book the / Lu Yan Liu Luo (internship) Figure / Israeli-American illustrator Ruth Gwily as the Seoul straight to the point: Frozen pig cut into small pieces in order to store into a small jar. Of course, I also have many places to let him crazy. For example, I hate French kissing; often without thinking to reject the proposal of Dan; when Dan middle of the night vomiting, I would pretend to sleep. But I think too much Dan more than I do. I remember when we held in country house in Maine, family gatherings, he had threatened to severely beat my brother meal. However, our marriage is still the overall good. suddenly had an idea: to improve her and Dan's marriage.
Elizabeth told the Dan The same is true, and actively learn new skills, I do not know too tired, Now he is reading the load of the former Soviet Union during the training manual, in the hope of physical exercise, 41 teenagers into a sturdy physique.
Sadly, Dan thought he had all the initiatives is to improve the marriage of medicine, who knows of Elizabeth it Why. a breath, look at each other's expression was observed, Elizabeth added: A surfer and writer, handsome extraordinary, full of charm .11 years later, we had two children, two jobs, a house. Is life really from the future, we become a backwater of you? After some heart to heart, the couple decided unanimously: marriage is still strong in the time to start improving it. They also agreed that now is the time, or after this village, no this shop. their two daughters and one 4-year-old , a 7-year-old, have no day care; the work of the couple are back on track, broadly stable; house also pay off the loan.
Elizabeth started reading a lot of psychology books and found that her thoughts are common phenomenon. a California saying: If the thought of having sex bush, it is best mentally prepared, because it will scare a snake hidden.
2000 年 7 1 May, Elizabeth and Dan were married in California. That year Dan 32, Elizabeth 30. both parents have the marriage lasted 40 years. Dan grew up in Berkeley, California, his parents indulge in romantic between husband and wife, leading Dan felt ignored. Dan in high school, girls do not willing to talk to him, Dan, ask for advice to the mother, her mother said, Dan is so handsome that the girls are shy Debu would dare speak to him. and Elizabeth's parents raising three children in Massachusetts, because the busy working they do not have the opportunity to express private feelings between husband and wife.
After the wedding, the couple had thought that the problem may arise between them should be the money and the religious sub (Elizabeth was a Jew, Dan was a Christian.) later in life shows that both does not pose a problem. They set up in the 21st century type of marriage partner: Dan and Elizabeth is not only economic partner, lover, co-parents and best friends, or each other's work assistant, editing, and first readers.
difficult start
good marriage should be like? more interesting conversation? more intense sex?
University of Rochester psychology professor Harry. Reye the current interpretation of the various marriage analogy ; Mangrenmoxiang marriage and criteria will appear. They began to cf Javier. the authority of Dr. Hendricks as Project: Make a list that contains its own characteristics, these features are very good compliment to him to make.
first step, please use the way as much as possible to complete the following sentence: Next: Description sharply. He believes that marriage is emotionally and psychologically satisfied, but in the end but only one person can be met. , in which to buy a house? How much is enough? who care for their children, who go to the gym? as problem solving, our relationship has become a little better. But the present mode of thinking this kind of competition between us back. with a provocative expression of the time watching me r, are you kidding? You simply do not go out to see me one time. In addition to children, you are ignoring all other things ah. , and I feel fall into the bottom: , but his problem is just the opposite with me. He often ignored the child. and John. Didi Ang's The two sides must learn better through marriage. marriage education movement of small promoters Bernard. Gurney priest in the Treatment experts teach the students the same as if the tennis coach, although time consuming, but always have a good result. the mystery. Look, start first by a person described his or her feelings, these feelings were confirmed by another, and then repeated word for word.
accompanied by soft background music, Elizabeth and Dan sat on the sofa started their skills in dialogue. a source of pleasure, can make you three times a day to appreciate the lifestyle you want to pursue. repeated every night the same dialogue: you want to cook or want to raise children? Dan always choose to cook, Elizabeth has been chosen with children .7 years later, Dan became a The couple spent the money on food way over budget. They eat very well. fridge full of seasonal food: home-made pickled salmon fillets, organic milk, salted sardines, lettuce, lemon lobster sauce, mozzarella, goat cheese, leek, garlic, blue bottle coffee, there are eggs. Saturday night, Dan, Elizabeth prepared for salmon dumplings, truffle flavor polenta, Madeira white wine. Dan would like to take cooking escape the question, ? I'm cooking! sites from all noisy. Dan is also dissatisfied with his wife to fight back: secretly into the salad, fried pig ears, made of strange for her to eat breakfast; children knocked over the flour jar, his indifference in the 6:45 am when the muffins made with grapes and champagne.
Elizabeth know, Dan's love of cooking and obsessive-compulsive disorder only to resolve his anxiety, trying to give him a bit of disorder to order in the nerve. Without such a vent the way, Dan was about to collapse, and he would throw tantrums if crash. Theoretically, Elizabeth respect his approach, even appreciate the energy transfer. but one must fight her in real life.
that afternoon, the couple to communicate in this blunt way, this exercise seems to open a Pandora's box, the situation became very home at night, they had the first
If, as Henderson said, the marriage can trigger a person's bad temper, even those who usually were very much himself, reason and tolerance in the face of a partner who will always appear when the short-sighted and rude. beginning of the course When the moderator introduced the wife of the organizer is vulgar, he was afraid of her, does not like to stay at home. settling old accounts of view of human nature hidden in the end, what next?
home, when Dan praised the beautiful Elizabeth, she really began to pay attention to his reaction. What here? changed. marriage therapy like chemotherapy, effective but harmful to the treatment of people more depressed. troubled marriage caused the biggest reason. From a psychological analysis point of view, the concept of monogamy to the formation of a baby, a baby corresponds to a mother. Marriage is seen as a succession of such relations. But the key issue is: does the baby corresponds to the only mother, but my mother does not correspond to the only child. scholar Adam. Phillips said: defined the position. become even more disturbing.

children and elderly parents, Dan, Elizabeth, they complain that too many weekends spent at home. Elizabeth like it there: the sky is clear, not their own kids; two daughters can swim. But Dan did not like: weekend made him feel excluded from the family decision-making. husband and wife quarrel is the source of their different understanding of loyalty: Elizabeth do not think the love of her parents, Dan is not loyalty; for Dan, this is her his unfaithful.
a weekend, go with Elizabeth, Elizabeth and Dan parents house for the weekend. Elizabeth woke up early and go for a run for a moment step back to find Dan amuse children to play on the lawn, while complaining loudly He hates those who look the same house, also with colorful windows, blocking natural light; complain about damage to the scenic golf course; complain about playing golf in the top of the fool. The next day was Father's Day, Elizabeth out with good intentions the children are out of work, so Dan enjoy a free Father's Day, but Dan because she did not get yelled at Father's Day gift, which made her very angry. The most heated arguments occurred on Saturday afternoon. When the couple prepared to pack up and go home, Elizabeth told Dan she let the children stay, next weekend then they are sent back to her parents. Dan broke out: decide what happens at home. a? : sex therapy. Elizabeth said that the treatment they mixed feelings: to improve the sex life a lot easier than imagined, but the treatment started, they almost want to give up.
Elizabeth and Dan had a very normal sex life: each Week several times, each time, as no change. Now, said Elizabeth.
When Elizabeth and when we first met Dan, Dan is trying to get rid of the trouble on a relationship. He is a former girlfriend with a point of passion or sexual abuse tendencies. She said a lot of very harsh on Dan so, while Dan Quedui Elizabeth did the same thing, and he laughed kissing her way. . What's more, Dan in the first years of our marriage is still writing a novel about the nightmare of his former girlfriend and other former girlfriend, which led directly to the book was published, I never get rid of that feeling. of course We never discussed this point, it is very hard to operate with our sex life, year after year. sex tricks high jump, and then suddenly rushed to the mountain streams;
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......< br> This email response to Dan several months Elizabeth issued prior to a message that says he wants to adjust her physique and sensitivity. The email subject is chin-up, 20 parallel bars and front squat stretch, but also can play the equivalent weight of the barbell bench press the weight, and can lift the equivalent weight of 1.5 times the weight. Dan sent this message from the early days of Elizabeth had Try to improve sex life sex goods, but tragically Dan refused. sent to this email, Dan came from his basement office loft Elizabeth's office, asked her which one looks best. she refused to perform any one of them This is the beginning of their estrangement.
part, to squeeze him out. God, married for 9 years, how I may be subject to those former lover, I never mentioned it even mention them. The idea really makes me angry. > jealousy continues. Elizabeth suddenly realized that Dan asked her if she would not pay attention to the pool when the muscle men of strong build, she said, a. couple's sex life has become more intimate and open. But Elizabeth found herself on such a close relationship begin to shrink. She was afraid he was lost in Dan's life.
a few times after sex in Elizabeth to put on a Vice does not look like anything happened. Dan stroked her, she switched on the body would not let him touch. very funny, when we try to improve a marriage relationship, I would want her husband kicked the side. The reason why you want to improve a marriage, because they want to mess things to take away from the marriage, to restore the passion and happiness of marriage. a white T-shirt and shorts, with a white pillow on his head, his wife read to block the light. cookery books and training manuals to scatter. Elizabeth said, he looked like a baby, full of vitality and hope. She told reporters in psychoanalysis, the , rather than Illustrated . All this achieved, we think marriage is a tool to satisfy the desire, hope it brings us endless joy, passion, strong commitment to intimate partner as well. Then, we are able to realize these desires to evaluate the success of marriage or not. We have been in rivalry with the marriage as if it were bound free of the fetters of our lives. Over the past few months, I struggled Dan, angry too, all because of the marriage on the wrong position. Dan Vietnam to the more nervous I can not stand, and I extremely want to break away from him. this experiment together with Dan, I would like to understand a lot about the marriage issue, which is a person no matter how hard I can not understand. I think can really start the experiment: we can ask ourselves and each other to increase courage and patience.